Anger to Forgiveness: Emotions in the Body

Why am I stuck in anger?

Anger is not listening, attempt to prove I'm right. yay-9244844Anger is the most difficult emotion to master, for many people. Where does it come from? And why is it so hard?

  • Did you expect something to work out and it didnt?
  • Or, did you think you deserved something you didn’t get?
  • And perhaps you think someone is treating you unfairly.
  • Or, you may suspect someone misunderstands your motives.
  • Could it be you are expecting a thank you from the universe for all your good deeds, and all you get is a shower of mud.

In these situations, you might have felt angry. I certainly have. However, no one is “making me feel” angry. I can feel my body tense up, or my head, neck and jaw tighten. Quickly, I can then recognize the emotion in my body. You can, too. As you trace your reactions to expectations, beliefs and thoughts, you become more empowered to change. It is easy to change thoughts. But you can work directly with the body sensations and breath to change emotions as well.

Emotional Tone Scale w Rosi footer3Emotional Tone scale

When I feel anger or irritation, or any emotion that disturbs me, I use a process of healing that moves me up the Emotional Tone Scale (ETS, see post Emotional Tone Scale). I learned ETS from Body Electronics Point Holding.1 I adapted it into a system I call Verbal Point Holding.2 Anger is close to the top of the scale. Loving the anger, recognizing that I created it, and that it may have served my own purpose allows me to first forgive myself, then forgive the other. But it can take time.

 

You Can Heal Your Life book cvrAren’t we “supposed to” forgive?

Forgiveness is a cleansing process. Forgiveness doesn’t work if it is hurried, or forced, or if it turns into another “should”. It only works after we stop looking outside ourselves for an external cause of suffering. As Cheri Huber says, “Examining beliefs, abandoning them, and returning attention to the present is essential to ending suffering, as is living in the awareness that nothing in the universe is personal.4

One key to ending suffering is staying present to your feelings. Another is to recognize that no one is reaching inside your brain and nervous system to “make you feel” something. In fact, every feeling arises from within you.

How do my emotions affect my symptoms?

Carrying anger and unforgiveness for a long time is like carrying stones in your heart. It really only punishes you.5 Louise Hay6 lists many conditions that result when we burden our bodies with unprocessed anger, resentment, irritation or lack of self-love: kidney stones, gall stones, gout, liver problems, heart disease, chronic pain, immune system breakdown, are just a few. She teaches that when we change our thinking patterns, we change our bodies. That has also been my experience. It takes time, maybe a lifetime. Or maybe in an instant.

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1 Credit to Dr. John Ray, N.D. Read more in Body Electronics, by Thomas Chavez.
2 See my post, Emotional tone Scale and Verbal Point Holding.
3 Stanley Keleman, Emotional Anatomy.

4 Cheri Huber, Suffering is Optional.
5 Tikkun: Forgiveness as a spiritual practice

6 Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life. Also, Heal Your Body. Both by Hay House Publishing.

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